Why can’t I commit to one person? I’m a 37 year old female, was married once for almost 5 years and we have a son who is now 6 and lives with me full-time. I found myself bored in my marriage and got out. I have been dating someone for the past 3 1/2 years and now I want out, I’m bored again. Looking back I seem to always get bored after being one person for some time. My boyfriend now wants to get married and at one point I did say yes but now I don’t want too. I’m afraid it’s going to be the same disaster as with my ex. I have decided I don’t want to be married, live with him or have him hanging around me 24/7. He’s great but I just can’t do it with him or anyone else. I don’t know what to do. My parents have been married for 39 years and got married after dating for only 2 months. So what’s my problem? Besides being TOO independent. I feel I can’t commit and never will be able too. The thought of being with one person forever makes my head spin. But why? I try, I get bored easily no matter what. This guy wants to give me everything and I won’t have to work (but I will) and I can’t accept that. What is wrong with me???

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and he always brings up the past. Lately we’ve been getting in bickering fights about little things. But when I tell him how I’m feeling, he often plays lawyer and brings up every argument we’ve ever had in the past and eventually I’m so exhausted from the fight that I feel like I get nowhere in trying to solve it, and almost feel like it’s my fault when it clearly isn’t. Why is he obsessed with proving me wrong and why does he constantly bring up old fights in an argument?

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We have never had a serious conversation! I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year now and just recently, that head-over-heels honeymoon phase has melted away. I’m over the cutesy, lovey-dovey stuff and I’ve been craving substance! As soon as I discovered what I needed, I began to realize that me and my guy have never had a serious conversation!! Ever. When the topic is superficial, he lights up and can talk your ear off but the minute I begin a topic that relates to thoughts and ideas etc, he switches off. There is no reaction to my words other than an unconvincing “Yeah”. If a good conversation is like a game of catch and if the words are supposed to flow naturally, I’m very worried about our future. I need someone that I can talk to and I want it to be him. I know that he’s not a superficial person, but lately it seems like we don’t connect. How do I go about bringing our relationship from the clouds to the ground?

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I have been married for 1 1/2 years, and my husband still pretends to be single some times! My husband and I get in arguments every so often, and I tell him he makes me so mad I don’t want to be with him! Then he says oh yeah, and tends to take off. He provokes me in a way, he knows how to make me so mad I say those things, but don’t mean it 2 hours later after I cool off. However, he usually does his own thing the nights of our arguments. I have checked the phone bill and every night we have issues (usually every weekend) he will call women. I recently called a girl from the phone bill. She told me they had been talking but had not had the chance meet yet (he met her while driving and got her number). He plays single when its to his advantage, yet were not divorced..and marriage is committed even if you get really mad and say hurtful thing right? So are these things he is doing right or wrong? I know I could never do it to him! I have confronted him and he has apologized but this is like the 7th time I’ve confronted him since we got married. The thing is I cant prove he cheated…what should I do?? Please help!

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I don’t know what to do my boyfriend said he does not know if he is in love with me. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. Last night we started a discussion and it lead to other things… I asked him if he was in love with me and wanted to be with me, he said he didn’t know and wanted to take some time to think about it. I just need to know what I should do here? He says that he still loves me, but in not sure about being “in love with me”. I need some advice!

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My husband doesn’t trust me! We have been married for almost six years and I don’t think he has EVER trusted me. He was cheated on by his first wife. If I talk to any of my guy co-workers or any guys (even my friends husbands) he thinks I am being unfaithful. He contacts me all the time when I am out. Multiple times a day. He is driving me crazy. Should I get counseling or end my marriage?

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I found my soul mate but I am married to someone else! I am a married man of four years with two children from this relationship and one from a previous one. I am in a predicament as I’ve met someone who is all that I have been looking for all these years and could not find. I believe that I married my wife to hastily and now I’m stuck. I don’t want to hurt anyone but at the same time my wife and I have had some serious troubles recently and I’m not sure if it’s the fact that I’ve finally met my “soul mate” four years after swearing my loyalty to someone i DON’T love. My kids will suffer more than she and I ever would but at the same time i don’t want to end up alone. What should I do? I’ve done some real soul searching and I can honestly say that anything my wife and I once had is long gone. Do I cheat? I guess I already have. This woman knows how I feel and she is in agreement that we have something special that we’ve both been looking for a long time. We’ve had some deep serious conversations and both think we could make a wonderful future together. I believe that marriage is an institution not to be taken lightly and I know that my vows are already shattered at my feet. So do I end my current marriage even though it will cause my children pain, (although it will be nothing compared to the pain they will feel if we stay together) or do I stick it out and we can all be absolutely miserable together?

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I am in a new relationship that is moving too fast for both of us and I do not know what to do. How do I slow things down without negatively impacting the relationship?

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